How many times have you wanted to do something and immediately your mind starts to create a lengthy and sometimes elaborate list of all the reason why you shouldn’t or can’t do it? We have all been there more times than we can count. I can’t help but wonder why we do this. Are we just beating others to the punch and telling ourselves all the reasons why we shouldn’t or can’t do something before we give others a chance to do it for us or are we just conditioned to immediately go to the negative. There comes a point where we just have to stop all of this craziness and just give it a try.
The time that I see this happen the most is when it comes to people trying to reach for their dreams, including myself. First, I would have the dream starting with “I want…” immediately followed by the litany of excuses of why I shouldn’t or couldn’t. I was driving myself crazy. The time I was wasting by going through this was enormous. I knew that I had to figure out a way to turn this around.
Then finally the way I turned this around was I allowed myself to continue to make the typical list of negatives, yet every time I thought of a reason why I shouldn’t or couldn’t do something I would turn the excuse from a statement into a question. For example, if my excuse was “I can’t afford to….” I would write down the question “How can I get enough money to…?” Or, I would change the excuse “I don’t know how to…” into the question “How can I learn how to….?” Taking this a step further, any time someone else would tell me why I shouldn’t or couldn’t do something I would respond to them with a question of “How can I….?” Don’t expect an answer, but this is another question that you can add to your list.
After a while you will have a list of questions that are actually your “to-do” list. If you methodically set out answer all your questions you will soon find yourself on the path to having what you want. It is through this list of questions that you are actually trying to reach your goal. Each time you find an answer to a question that will confirm for you that you are trying. Just sticking to the excuses shows that you aren’t really even trying.
What can you try today that will get you closer to your dream or your goal? Do you need to find a new question to ask yourself? Keep telling yourself that everyday you will try something new and watch how much faster you reach your dream or your goal.