We all have those moments, (or even days) when we are feeling overwhelmed. We all have so many things going on in our lives and there seems to be so much coming at us. Some days it feels like the entire Universe has all the sudden slipped into some strange, unannounced and unpredicted warp speed. We have schedules that seem impossible. People that are intolerable, and you feel like if someone throws you one more ball to juggle, you are going to drop them all. That is just life and we all have times like this.
Life is meant to give us challenges. It is through those challenges that we grow and learn. However, as in most cases, the biggest part of any challenge we face in life is just getting through the challenge itself. As always, you have a choice. You can either let the situation consume you and push you along as you fight it or you can find a way to work with the situation and make the blows a little softer and perhaps just learn something new.
How to Handle A Challenge
Before you can effectively deal with any difficult challenge you must first prepare yourself. After all, YOU are the key factor in any challenge you are faced with. When it looks like the situation is starting to get out of control, call a time out. No matter what the situation is, even if it is with another personal, walk away for just a minute. To outside or just go to the bathroom. Go someplace where you can be alone. Take several deep breathes and calm down. If you can’t calm yourself first, you will never be able to calm the situation. Even if you can’t walk away, find a way to calm yourself down.
After you have taken some time to just calmly breathe and clear you mind of all the noise and chatter, go back and try again. Remember that there is always a solution to every problem, you just have to be willing to look for it.
Over the years I have learned that the reason some of my biggest challenges have gotten so out of control, was simply due to my hard-headed need to control all the elements of the situation. I don’t really know exactly what changed my thinking on this. Perhaps it is the simple fact that I just got tired of fighting. Whichever the case may be, I did learn that the best way to control any challenge or situation is to just stop trying to control it. Once I stopped trying to control everything and start working in the flow it, life got so much easier.
Once I learned to stop controlling every situation and I learned to work with it, I was amazed at not only the results I got, but what I learned. In most cases the results that I got by working with the situation were far better than they would have been had I done it the way that I thought I should.
Sometimes, you just have to learn to let go!
What are you trying to control?