For many of us it all started at a very early age… people telling us what we should do with our lives. Most of us have had a dream of doing something only to have someone come along and step all over it telling us all the reasons it won’t work. While at the same time telling us what we should be doing instead. This drives me crazy! I delights my soul every time I have the opportunity to prove the wrong simply by continuing on with my work and accomplishing my goal.
You don’t have to make a big deal of it or use the tacky lines like “I told you so”. They know and they see that they were wrong. What is funny is how they all the sudden change their tune and they become your biggest cheerleader by saying things like, “I knew you could do it”. When all you can hear in your head is them telling you what they wanted you to do.
This happens to anyone that has a dream. It really isn’t a big deal and if you are a fighter for your dream you quickly learn how to dismiss these people and you get over it and just keep moving forward.
Prove Yourself Wrong
The person that is much harder to deal with is yourself! When you set out to accomplish something and you start hearing the pesky little voice in your head that starts telling you “you can’t do this” or “you need to do something else instead”. That is much harder to deal with. I know because I face that pesky voice just about every day. It seems like every day, in one way another, I am doing battle with this voice. Either it is the, ‘I can’t do this because I don’t have enough money’ or ‘I can’t do that because I don’t know how’. In one way or another I am constantly having this battle.
When I find myself in one of these battles I pull out the biggest weapon that I have, my sword, also know as my pen. When they say that the pen is mightier than the sword they are telling the truth! Yes, I start writing. I write out the entire scenario of what is going on and what I am dealing with. Yet I don’t write about it as it is, instead I write about it as if it has already happened. I write about how it turned out even better than I expected or wanted. I write about how easy it was to do and how much fun I had doing it.
The biggest thing that I write about the situation is how grateful I am for the situation and how well it turned out. Along with my gratitude, I write about how happy it makes me feel. It has taken me a while to figure this out. However, I have found that when I am in a difficult situation, if I will stop, take 15 minutes and write about the desired outcome I want and express my gratitude for this desired outcome, everything in me just makes a slight shift and I find that I can easily move forward usually with astounding results.
Some days I find myself going into my journal several times throughout the day, overcoming obstacles and visualizing and writing out my desired outcome. Where on other days I find myself just writing about my gratitude and joy for how well the day has gone. Either way I just keep writing. I keep my sword sharp and full of ink!
Don’t worry about what others are telling you, focus on what you are telling yourself. If what you are telling yourself is keeping you from moving forward, pull out your mighty sword and go to battle. Soon you will be slaying those dragons and seeing yourself living the life you once dreamed of.